About Restore & Rebuild

Welcome to the website of Restore and Rebuild Ministries and to our group blog! We are glad you’re here.


Restore and Rebuild Ministries is a team made up of Dr. Dave Friese, pastor and certified Pastoral Counselor, his wife, Becky Friese, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Susie Loomis, Family Life Educator and Mentor. We provide counseling, education and mentoring services to the community of North San Diego County and beyond.

We blog about marriage and relationships, parenting issues, mental and emotional health, spiritual growth, and about the joys and challenges of ministry.

Dave and Becky launched Restore and Rebuild in November 2014 to meet three specific needs.

1)  Affordable Therapy

When life gets overwhelming and our coping skills can’t keep up, it can help to turn to a wise third party for support. However, it can be very difficult to find help that fits your budget and a counselor who shares your values.

Restore and Rebuild Counseling Center, located in Encinitas, California, offers Christian counseling, sliding scale fees, and, if needed, scholarship funds to help subsidize the cost of therapy. We don’t want finances to keep people from getting the help they need.

At Restore and Rebuild, we see therapy as part of ministry. We count it a privilege to assist people in their journey toward health and healing. Our vision for Christian counseling resonates with that of Redeemer Presbyterian Church, and our counseling center is located at their church in Encinitas, California.

2)  Support for Families

One of the biggest changes we’ve seen in over 30 years of working with youth and parents is that today’s families are dramatically busier than families were in the past.

These days, parents and teens are under intense time pressures. We want to be good parents, but in the middle of the stress, it’s easy to get reactive and hard to be proactive.

Through Restore and Rebuild, our team supports busy parents to help them navigate the challenges of raising healthy kids in today’s culture. We provide accessible, relevant resources to help individuals and families thrive.

3)  Help for Helpers

People who help others as a profession — for example, pastors, teachers, or therapists — are at risk of compassion fatigue, boundary issues, and burnout.

Dave, Becky and Susie have experienced firsthand the ups and downs of life in ministry. We know that even the best of helpers just cannot do it alone. If we aren’t careful, giving to others can take a heavy toll on our own marriages, our children, and even our personal health.

Because we have walked this road personally, we have a passion for helping others navigate this path successfully. Part of our goal at Restore and Rebuild is to help helpers. We provide resources to encourage, educate and support those in helping professions. Ministry leaders and their family members find an open door and a listening ear at our counseling center.

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Dr. Dave Friese has been a pastor for over thirty years, primarily focusing on youth and families. Dave has developed and supervised the counseling ministries at churches, and he has a passion for mentoring others. He has spoken at numerous conventions, camps, classes and seminars, including Youth Specialties National Youth Worker Convention, GLASS Convention, National Network of Youth Workers, Intake, Talbot Seminary and San Diego Christian College.

Dave has a Doctorate in Educational Ministry with an emphasis on Marriage, Family and Counseling from Dallas Theological Seminary, and a Masters in Christian Education from Talbot Seminary. He is certified as a Pastoral Counselor through the Board of Christian Professional and Pastoral Counselors, and he is a charter member of the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC).

Dave is trained as a group facilitator by MarriageStrong, and as a mediator by Peacemaker Ministries. He is also a trained PREP instructor. Dave is certified in the use of Prepare-Enrich, a widely-used premarital and marital assessment tool.

Dave enjoys photography, beaches, and discussing philosophy and apologetics. He loves working out and sports of all kinds.

More About Becky:

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Becky Friese received her M.A. in Marital and Family Therapy from Bethel Seminary in San Diego. She has advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, a well-researched, very effective form of couples therapy. In addition, she has many years of experience working with youth and families in both clinical settings and in churches.

Becky is a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), and the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT).

She teaches seminars, classes and events on a wide range of topics dealing with parenting, relationships, mental and emotional health, spiritual growth and ministry.

Becky enjoys running, reading, travel, and spending time with family and friends. She says, “In my own life, I am constantly learning, always seeking wisdom and attempting to pass it on.” Becky and Dave have been married for over 30 years and have four grown children.

More About Susie:

Susie Loomis has a Masters in Family Studies from Fuller Seminary and a B.S. in Nursing from Baylor University. She has been mentoring couples and women for more than ten years, and is actively involved in church ministry.

Susie is certified in two types of premarital counseling assessments: SYMBIS and Prepare/Enrich. Susie and her colleague, Kelly Sun, developed curriculum for building healthy marriages, which they use at their “Love and Be Loved” retreats, offered at various times throughout the year.

Susie enjoys good friends, good food, and good conversations.  She and her husband, Steve, have been married for over 30 years and have three grown children.