We at Restore & Rebuild want to thank all of you who came to our Concert at the Ranch. What a festive, fun-filled night for people of all ages!
During the night, everyone got to hear what we do at Restore & Rebuild, and the impact we’re having on the greater Encinitas community. I was deeply moved by what Kevin and Jane Woo and G’Joe Joseph shared. Kevin and Jane described the impact Restore & Rebuild is having in their lives and in the lives of people they know. G’Joe Joseph told about a call he recently received from a professor at San Diego State. He said the professor thanked him for the counseling students have been receiving, because he’s seeing the difference it makes in their lives.
Fall is in the air; we can see it in the colors. In Encinitas, that means beautiful red and orange sunsets. It reminds us that the holidays are just around the corner. While for many this brings the joy of good food and good times with family, for others it is a reminder of how broken their world is and it brings about feelings of loneliness and hurt. At Restore and Rebuild Ministries we strive to help individuals and families thrive. We recognize the need to come alongside people during difficult seasons.
As we come to the end of the first quarter of 2016, Becky and I want to update you on how things are going at Restore and Rebuild. We have one big announcement, a number of things we’re grateful for, and some significant prayer requests.
As parents, we are given the incredible opportunity to train up our children. From toddlers to college students, each stage brings joys and challenges. Most parents want their children to succeed in life. How well are we preparing them for the future? Are we doing things that make it difficult for them to thrive?
When you think of heaven what comes to mind? Streets of gold? Angels singing? Maybe talking with a loved one who has passed away? The imagery of heaven has captured our imagination for centuries. Numerous stories, books, and even movies have filled our minds with ideas. We wonder what it will be like. Is it possible to get a glimpse of heaven here on earth?
In The Merry Adventures of Robin Hood, Robin advises a young follower, “Tell us thy troubles and speak freely. A flow of words doth ever ease the heart of sorrows; it is like opening the waste where the mill dam is overfull.”
Robin Hood was trying to set an environment where people were free to share their burdens and find peace and safety. Isn’t that something we all want? Being able to share our sorrows not only releases our burdens, it empowers us to feel like we aren’t alone. We have someone who will enter our pain.
In every relationship there will be conflict. How we deal with the conflict will determine the level of health and intimacy. Taking responsibility for our mistakes and forgiving others is critical. But it is not as easy as it sounds.
A God-centered relationship too often feels like a nice idea that is always out of reach. We want it, but we aren’t sure what it looks like. We might even try a few ideas on for size, but usually give up in frustration.
Marriage is one of God’s laboratories in which he brings two uniquely different people together to become one. Intimacy and unity is the end goal of this sanctifying process. But too often we let our uniqueness get in the way of our oneness. We focus just on our own needs and not on the needs of our spouse or our relationship.
I can remember being one of lead climbers on a high ropes course in the Costa Rican cloud forest. One of the students was trying to make it across something called “the x-rope.” Even though she had two lines attached to her harness, she thought she was going to fall. She desperately clung to the ropes, immobilized by fear. She thought she was going to die. Fear had overthrown her ability to listen. We calmly tried to instruct her, but to no avail. The only way to help her was to go out and get her.
Every spiritual journey takes us to the hardest realities in our lives, the monsters within us, our shadows and strongholds, our willful flesh, our inner demons. It is essential that we understand the enemies within us or we will inevitably project them outward on to other people.” – Peter Scazzero in The Emotionally Healthy Church
We all have blind spots. Our lack of self-awareness can cause us to offend, run over and alienate people we love. They react to what we say and we have no clue why. We get defensive, and the battle is on. Both parties are wounded and emotional walls go up and we are left wondering, “What just happened?”
Self-awareness helps us understand and manage our emotions. It gives us a greater capacity for social awareness and empathy. It is a critical building block for enhancing our relationships. Today we are going to take a brief look at what it is and how we can develop our own self-awareness.