Letting go of the things we can’t change requires a shift in perspective. We have to see relationships in a new light. Boundaries that were invisible to us before start to become clear. We begin to realize we’ve been trying to control things that really are not our responsibility.
In this process of learning to let go, these wise words have helped me to clarify what it’s like to let go.
In his book The Grace Awakening, author and pastor Chuck Swindoll included this piece, written by an unknown author:
To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization that I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
I can only change myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to effect their own outcomes.
To let go is not to be protective;
it is to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes.
To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more!
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