To start with, let’s discuss the obstacles to self-care. What makes it so difficult for us to practice good self-care, to attend to our own basic needs in a healthy, consistent way?

1) We’re Too Busy

Probably the number one reason is that we have so much to do, so much that feels way more urgent and important than taking care of ourselves. This was definitely true for the moms I met with. When you are providing care for children below the age of five, you are working round-the-clock tending to other people’s needs — fitting in time to even notice your own needs seems impossible.

But even if you’re past that caregiving stage of parenting or don’t have children, the pressing urgency of the to-do list makes self-care difficult.

In our culture that values productivity, where we measure our worth by our performance, healthy self-care often doesn’t even make it onto our radar screen. Granted, we could prioritize basic self-care and start making time to attend to our own soul and to replenish ourselves. But then we bump up against another obstacle to good self-care…

2) Self-Care Feels Selfish

When we make self-care a priority, we might hear a voice inside our heads, telling us that we’re being selfish, that we’re not thinking of others enough, or that we’re not doing what we “should” be doing. Our work ethic says that self-care is laziness, and we have no response.

Sadly, this is often especially true in Christian circles. We’re taught to put others first and to sacrifice our own desires and needs for the good of others — which are valuable lessons! — but we’re not usually taught the corresponding importance of healthy, unselfish self-care. When we relax we feel guilty, so we carry on, busy and exhausted, neglecting the health of our own souls.

3) No Support

Very few of us have people in our lives who remind us to take care of ourselves. Our bosses don’t tell us to care for our souls; our preschoolers don’t encourage us to make sure we get a good night’s sleep. No one holds us accountable to put self-care on our schedule. The choice to prioritize healthy self-care is generally a very private one, and the practice of it can feel lonely at times.

4) We Don’t Know What to Do

Even if we want to make self-care a priority in our busy lives, we still might have a problem — we just don’t know what healthy self-care looks like! Most of us didn’t grow up in a culture where attention to the needs of one’s soul was modeled for us, so we aren’t really sure what it involves.

How can we care for our souls? What does healthy, unselfish self-care actually look like? What are some practical tips for developing the ability to practice good self-care? These are questions we will address in this series on self-care.

My hope is that by addressing these obstacles and discussing the importance of self-care, we will feel empowered and inspired to take care of our souls, to make time in our busy schedules to practice healthy self-care, for our own benefit and the benefit of those around us.

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